A Favorite Niece

Facebook is always asking about something and the other day it asked it you had a favorite niece? I replied I had many nieces and nephews that were all important to me.  I was fortunate to be born with a nephew and a niece already older than me. My nephew Darryl made it clear to me when I was small that when I was visiting I was his cousin not his uncle or there would be dire consequences.

Daryl Thackeray, Russ Crites, and Jacay Thackeray

Me in the middle


I think we always got along

My niece Jacay and I always, always got along. I can’t recall a cross or a bad word passed between us our entire lives. She was one of those special people who was always interested and concerned in what I did. She followed me through some rebellious periods of my life and some troubled times. She was always the one who thought the best of me even when that wasn’t quite true.


She laughed at my jokes, which at times she really didn’t understand till a whole day later. She would come the next day or hours later at times and say , ” I know what you meant now!” and laugh and laugh.. No she wasn’t slow, but she just had to think about stuff for awhile.

To say the very least I loved her all my life. She ended up with breast cancer and fought the good fight as the cancer went into remission then returned with a vengeance. When I saw her in the hospital the last time she said she loved me and I told her the same. I miss you Beautiful Lady. Strange when you lose someone who loves you there certainly is a hole. There are people on this earth that we just assume will be there our whole lives and when we lose one of these precious ones it tells us to Love today not next week.

Jacay Thackeray High School Graduation, 1969

Graduation, 1969

I miss you pretty Lady.


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  1. Susan Bliss says:

    I’m sorry about your loss – I guess I’d never met her – very pretty lady! How old was she? You’re absolutely right about loving people NOW – it is so easy to assume they’re just going to be here…

  2. Arla says:

    She was beautiful inside and out. A gentle person but with an inner strength.

  3. Slim says:

    Sue she was just slightly older than me, we graduated at the same time. She has been gone a couple years so she was probably just at 60 years old. Always looked the same, very nice gal. Yes Arla she had an inner strength and always very gentle, thinking of others.

  4. Susan Schmele says:

    I miss her gentle voice and the calm it created. She was voice of reason for dad and seemed to calm him as well which at times was quite a task.

    • Slim says:

      I too miss her gentle nature, she always thought about others. Thanks Susan

  5. Michelle says:

    I understand so well what you mean when you say ‘there is a hole. .’ A hiking friend of mine passed away in December. .and my dear friend(Dog) Maggie passed away 3 weeks ago-it breaks my heart.. the world is just not the same without them here. I find some consolation in their memories. . they are a part of me and they are with me in Spirit. .always will be. .I look forward to the time when I will see them again. . When I cross that Rainbow Bridge. .Thankyou so much for sharing this. .God Bless you..”It is better to have loved and ‘lost’ than never to have loved at all.” And I would do it all again!

  6. Slim says:

    Thanks for sharing Michelle.. Glad you stopped by.. I appreciate your time.

  7. Nikki Alaee says:

    That is a lovely tribute to her, Dad.

  8. Slim says:

    Thanks Nikki, she was a good and gentle soul.. I miss her.

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